Youngster remorse

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French creator Corinne Maier has two kids however cannot await the youngest to go away house, saying they’ve left her “exhausted and bankrupt”.

Her attack on “idealising parenthood” struck a chord with many moms and dads all over the world. Listed below are a few of their feedback – adopted by the responses from others who utterly disagreed.


It is good to know I am not the one one who has felt empty being a mother. Whereas I like my two kids very a lot, I really feel right now I ought to by no means have had them. Not solely are they costly, however to boost kids comes at a value to profession development except girls wait till they’re over 35. There are such a lot of causes to really feel pleasure in being a mother, however I really feel exhausted and unfulfilled. Alex, San Antonio.

I’ve by no means been somebody who’s good with children… and I am nonetheless not. My baby is six now and I nonetheless discover it onerous to narrate to him and his buddies. An entire lot of the time, I simply don’t love being a mom, and I usually do not match properly into this function. I really feel like an outcast amongst all the varsity mums who’re so actively concerned. Nameless, Cologne.

It’s troublesome to say I remorse having kids as a result of I like them. However, on stability, if I might flip again the clock and inform myself what it’s like, I am undecided I might hassle having any. It is solely “great” a really small proportion of the time. With out them I might have cash, freedom and much much less fear. Mary, Edinburgh.

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Having been introduced up in a damaged house, I had at all times dreamed of a giant household. I’ve been blessed with an exquisite husband and three (I am caught for the suitable adjective) kids. However by no means earlier than has the expression “watch out what you would like for” been so poignant. As I write this my daughter is hanging round my neck. I am unable to even go to the toilet with out listening to screaming and combating and the phrase “mamma” screeching via my “loving” house. Christmas is coming and as an alternative of feeling pleasure, I really feel like getting on a aircraft with my husband and going anyplace in any respect with a one-way ticket. Simply to get to know him once more. We’re too exhausted to even chuckle nowadays. And as I am penning this I am feeling responsible as a result of I must be grateful. I must be including some grateful phrase like “it is onerous however price it”. However I am unable to. As a result of I do not know whether it is. Andrea, Italy.

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I am now 50 and broke. Fortunately simply financially as a result of I stored my sanity and life intact regardless of the youngsters. Motherhood undoubtedly is not for everybody and simply because now we have the tools doesn’t suggest to say now we have the disposition. I gave every thing I might, did every thing I wanted to however was it a “pleasure”? No. If I had my time once more I might by no means have kids. Pleasure, Tub.

Citing the modern-day baby has left my husband and I exhausted – and it doesn’t cease at childhood, they’re nonetheless a fear on the age of 24 and 26. We tried so onerous to make them unbiased however we failed. They stay away from us however we’re nonetheless on the finish of a line, on name 24 hours a day! I like them each after all but when I turned again the clock I might not have kids. Jennifer, Hertfordshire.


I am keen on parenthood, warts and all. Nevertheless, unusual to say it isn’t one thing I want for my kids. The world is a really completely different place and is altering in a manner that you may have a fantastic life with out the sanctity of marriage and household unit. You will be blissful and fulfilled with out an excessive amount of dedication to taking care of others. A pet and plenty of buddies, a great job will about do it for the following Western technology. Jean, Troon.

I’ve two boys and I like them to no finish till the tiredness catches up and the each day noise would not appear to cease. I was affected person and had a functioning mind. That appears to have disappeared. It is all about schedules, naps, meals, clothes, tidying, playgrounds, the suitable upbringing, the suitable toys, what to say and what to not say, making an attempt to not take issues personally. When it is robust I would really like the no-kid-life, however whenever you get a hug or a kiss or they do one thing nice for the primary time I would not give it up for the world. Anja, Maastricht.

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In Norway getting kids is much more the only most necessary facet of 1’s life than in different European nations. Getting married is anyway roughly seen as a short lived state however household and kids keep. My husband and I had an exquisite relationship with good, fulfilling intercourse and a variety of frequent pursuits. Now we’re dad and mom, we’re confused on a regular basis, fatter than earlier than and have little or no time for one another. We’re too drenched to please one another in most features any extra. We do love our two boys very a lot and are blissful when they’re. However now we have in a manner disappeared. Mette, Akerhus.


Having kids is the most effective factor that ever occurred to me. Additionally it is onerous work. I do not know the place anybody would get the concept being a father or mother is a straightforward job that leads to on the spot happiness. Being blissful beneath any circumstances is one thing you need to work for over the long run. Brian, Ohio.

I can’t think about being childless. As an introvert, they stored me engaged with the world via their lecturers, coaches and different dad and mom. I bear in mind telling my mom that we had been ready till we might afford to have a baby. She mentioned, “should you wait till you possibly can afford one, you’ll by no means have any.” Now we have kids and grand-children as a result of they reintroduce to the wonders of nature they usually have a singular perspective that delights us. Karen, Virginia.

With the suitable associate parenthood is pure bliss. Now we have 5 and need we had extra. Sure kids are work however now we have had time to do many different issues by buying and selling off tasks between us. I discover that parenthood is like every thing else – it may be seen as an issue or a problem in the direction of progress. Now we have grown a lot and discovered a lot by being with our kids. Gloria, Sola.

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Having a baby has made me right into a extra socially and environmentally engaged particular person. I wrote my son a e-book, which I despatched to an agent, and some years later I discover myself a kids’s author with a number of books beneath my belt. I am fairly certain I would not have achieved that if I hadn’t had him. We have even achieved a little bit of world travelling – I took him to Australia when he was three. He was the most effective travelling companion, he helped me meet lots of people. He introduced me out of myself. And he teaches me stuff about area and black holes and the pure world (his heroes are David Attenborough and Stephen Hawking!) I am extra serious about science now. I am extra serious about every thing actually. Sam, Worthing.

I raised two kids in Japan. Sure, it value quite a bit in phrases of time and money, however I used to be however capable of preserve a fairly profitable educational profession. Youngsters simply made me extra organised. In intangible methods, my kids have given again a minimum of as a lot as they got, and proceed to take action of their grownup lives. They each have careers in medication, and contribute big quantities to the well-being of society. Moderately than being “little shoppers”, they’re as an alternative “nice contributors,” Bob, Tokyo.

I am proud to be a mum – having a baby and taking care of them is a pleasure and my children at the moment are within the college and extra unbiased. I am unable to await them to have their very own so I can take care of them. Placing the trouble in to educating children and exhibiting them proper from unsuitable is emotionally rewarding. They are going to develop up robust and respect the trouble. Ghada, Enfield.

My kids gave me a motive to stay and to battle once I misplaced my husband and was myself going to die of most cancers. I now stay with my grandchildren, considered one of them fairly handicapped with autism, and that boy is the motor for my new begin in life. Due to him I began a profitable music college, he’s my principal pupil, and dealing with him each day as I train him to play the violin is probably the most fulfilling expertise I might ever have. It’s a unhappy day for the way forward for our society when moms stop to consider in and worth motherhood. With out kids, there isn’t any future on this world. Jacoline, Geneva